Open adoption a good idea or not?

I think in your situation it would be the best choice. And that way you can still be a part of the baby's life. I think you could wait til the baby's a little older and then explain to them why you chose adoption. And at that point, I think they'll not only understand but theyll be happy for the family they have. And he or she will still know that you love him or her and will always be there. They'll be lucky to have two mommies and two daddies that love them :) good luck and hope this helps!